Stepping into Kobe—a dazzling blend of cosmopolitan flair and traditional Japan—offers more than just legendary beef and harbor views. Understanding local etiquette transforms your visit from “tourist” to “respectful guest.” Here’s your essential guide to navigating Japanese customs in Kobe with confidence:
The Art of the Bow (Ojigi)
In Japan, bows replace handshakes. In Kobe’s business hubs or ryokans (traditional inns):
- Casual nods (15°): For greetings or thanks at shops/cafés.
- Deeper bows (30°): To show gratitude (e.g., after a chef serves Kobe beef).
- Hands at your sides (men) or clasped (women). Avoid eye contact mid-bow—it’s about humility.
Dining Decorum: Beyond Kobe Beef
Kobe’s culinary scene demands grace:
- Chopstick Taboos: Never stab food, pass food chopstick-to-chopstick, or leave sticks upright in rice (reserved for funerals).
- Slurping = Praise: For ramen or udon, slurp loudly! It signals enjoyment.
- Shared Dishes: Use the reverse end of chopsticks for serving.
- Settling Bills: Place money on the tray provided; cash is preferred at small eateries.
Onsen Etiquette: Relaxing Right
Nearby Arima Onsen (30 mins from Kobe) is a must-try:
- Shower First: Wash thoroughly before entering baths.
- No Swimsuits: Nudity is mandatory (gender-segregated).
- Silent Soaking: Speak softly; immerse fully—towels stay out of water.
Public Spaces: Harmony in Motion
- Trains/Subways: No calls, low phone volume, and surrender priority seats. Stand on the left of escalators.
- Walking/Eating: Avoid eating while strolling; finish snacks at the vendor.
- Trash Bins: Rare—carry trash until you find one (convenience stores often have them).
Temples & Shrines: Sacred Silence
At Ikuta Shrine or Nofuku-ji Temple:
- Purification: At entrances, wash left hand → right hand → mouth (using the dipper’s handle).
- Praying: Toss a coin, bow twice, clap twice, pray, then one final bow.
- Photography: Respect “no photo” signs, especially during ceremonies.
Gift-Giving: Thoughtfulness Counts
Bringing omiyage (souvenirs)?
- Offer with both hands: A sign of sincerity.
- Modest Refusals: Locals may politely decline once or twice before accepting.
- Wrap Matters: Gifts in elegant paper show effort.
Why This Matters in Kobe
While Kobe is internationally minded, embracing these gestures—even imperfectly—earns warm smiles. Locals perceive your effort as honoring their culture. As one Kobe shop owner told me: “A traveler who bows is always welcome.”
Final Tip: If unsure, observe locals or ask softly. A simple “Sumimasen” (excuse me) and a smile bridge gaps. Now, savor Kobe’s magic—you’re not just visiting; you’re connecting.
Arigatou gozaimasu! 🙇♀️